Empowerment, Inspiration, Spirituality

In Yo Face Friday

It’s Friday!  Time to get in yo face!

Today I want to talk about rules. More importantly, breaking them.

Break the Rules

Now before you start running around  all willy-nilly  breaking rules for your own convenience, that’s not what I’m talking about. Red lights are there for a reason and if you cut to the font of the Starbucks line, I can’t promise someone won’t punch you in the throat! The rules I am talking about are the ones that we have imposed on ourselves and the ones that have been unintentionally imposed on us. Living by these rules imprison us when in actuality we were designed to dance and shine in abundance and success.

Example:

  • I’m an artist, I can’t run a business.
  • I can’t wear that dress, my thighs are too fat.
  • My relationships never work out. I am destined to be alone.
  • I can’t be a yoga teacher, I’m overweight and I can’t even touch my toes.

When you read those rules out loud they seem pretty ridiculous, right? That’s because they are. They’re big, fat, stupid rules.  But being ridiculous never stopped anyone from anything. And our rules can be broken.  If you start breaking the rules that imprison you , you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish and the happiness that will pour into your life.

Breaking these rules isn’t easy. It takes a revolution within ourselves. If our evolution happened over night, it wouldn’t be evolution. It would be…crap, I don’t know, something that happens over night without any effort, like leaves turning red in the fall.

You need to break the rules in your life to thrive.  <~~~ Tweet that.

The first step is figuring out what the hell they are. What rules are do you live by that are holding you back? How can you deprogram yourself? Once you have them identified, then work on reprogramming your rules.

I have been trying to figure this out myself for a while now. I’m going out on a limb now, trying to break a few of my own self imposed rules.  I’m getting personal. Something I very rarely do. Here are a few rules I am trying to crush.

I have too much educational debt to be self employed.  – fuck that shit. I’ve done it before and I will do it again. It just takes creativity, ambition and hustle. My new rule?  I have what it takes to be successful and the woman [Sallie Mae] can’t keep me down. 

Asking for help will make me seem weak. Seriously. I’m not sure exactly how this one got there but it has infected almost every aspect of my life. Maybe it’s genetic. I come from a very long line of disturbingly independent women (on both sides of my family). I struggled for months trying to build and tweak my website when I finally acknowledged that I needed help (thank you Courtney!) time and abundance began flowing in other directions.  My new rule: It’s good to ask for help when you need it. 

If I share my emotions people will think I am weak and/or crazy. This one is hard. Really, really hard for me.  I am pretty sure it’s tied to the asking for help rule, which is rooted in my Adirondack upbringing- fierce independence.  And that long line of fiercely independent women, well, they’re notorious for not letting a soul inside. I’ve been working on reprogramming myself to believe that the complexity of my emotions make me unique. The good, the bad and the ugly are all a part of who I am. They are what draws people to me and what keeps us connected. If I don’t let them out and share them my connections to those other souls will merely be superficial. My new rule: My emotions are powerful, sharing them will nurture the relationships I have.

So, those are some of the rules that have been holding me back in my personal, business and spiritual evolution.  What are the rules that hold you back? How are you going to break them? Who will hold you accountable? Break the fucking rules. The dialog in your brain has to change. Rewire your thinking so you can go out there, kick ass, be happy and change the world.

et al, Inspiration

Surroundings

This morning I got a letter from the Universe.  I get them every morning. But this morning it resonated with me.

It’s not the dazzling voice that makes a singer. Or clever stories that make a writer. And it’s not piles of money that make a tycoon. It’s having a dream and wanting to live it so greatly that one would rather move with it and “fail” than succeed in another realm. You so have what it takes.

For some reason, it reminded me of that saying ” you are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”  Sometimes we need to be reminded what we want to be, how we want to be it and who we want to do it with.

Surroundings

Food, Inspiration

Living Positively through Gratitude

Last night one of my close friends called me crying. She was heartbroken because her son had just left for bootcamp. He joined the Marines. She kept apologizing for breaking down and not “keeping it together.” She’s a super mom and one of those women that does it all and is there for everyone else, all. the. time. She amazes me on so many levels. She also kept saying that she couldn’t help but think the worst. I was so honored that she called me to let it all out, really meant so much to me. And the best thing that I could give her, was to stay positive. Then she asked me how and my only answer was gratitude.

There aren’t many out there that haven’t seen The Secret these days, it’s Oprah mainstream.  We all know about the Law of Attraction, and we all know the power of positivity.  But The Secret doesn’t really give you a manual or how-to for positive thinking. They just tell you to do it.  But how do you flip the positivity switch?

Live in Gratitude. Create a gratitude journal, write a list of 10 things that you are grateful for. Then write 10 more things. Then 10 more. Write 10 things every morning that you’re grateful for. This list becomes more powerful as it gets longer and as it gets more detailed. The longer the better, star including brief descriptions.

The more you pour into your gratitude journal, the more happiness you will bring into your life and the easier it will be for positive thoughts to replace negative. Gratitude simply the key to a happier life.

Today I am grateful for  Stephen, for dear friends that value my friendship enough to let their guards down and cry, for my yoga practice, for my business partners, for my amazing maid of honor, for the ability to follow my dreams, for being in Oprah magazine, for a mother that is as excited about planning a wedding as I am, for my health, for the health of my family, for my clients, for teaching yoga. Im grateful for you, for reading this blog.

What are you grateful for?