What’s Stopping You from Setting Goals?
Do you have a goal that you want to achieve but something is standing in the way? I have lots of goals..and let me be honest here, 9 times out of 10 the biggest thing standing in my way is ME. If you’ve found that you’re the biggest thing in your way, here are some questions to ask yourself.
Are You Afraid?
Often, it’s fear that’s stopping you from getting started. In order to reach your goal and make a big change in your life, you need to get out of your comfort zone. You may also be afraid of failure. Surprisingly, many people are afraid to succeed and attain their goals. The way to handle fear is to plan well, stop negative self-talk, and focus on your past achievements rather than what could happen in the future.
Do You Really Want It?
When you answer this question honestly, it can be an eye-opener. You may discover that you’re not ready yet to make the change. Sometimes we like the idea of attaining our goal better than the reality. The best way to find out if this is the case is to realistically consider all that you’ll have to do to achieve your goal. Listen to the stories of others who have done it and ask yourself if it’s worth it to you.
Is It Somebody Else’s Goal?
Is the goal actually your own or is it someone else’s? It’s very common for us to internalize the things others want for us. The other person may be a family member, a romantic partner, or people at work. When the goal isn’t really yours to begin with, it’s much easier to buckle under pressure when things get tough. Ask yourself if it’s what you really want or what they really want.
Are You Too Busy?
Do you really have the time to fit this goal into your life right now? Attaining any worthwhile goal takes a considerable amount of time. Many of us are ‘time poor’ and just don’t have room for it. You can learn how to manage your time better and shift your schedule around, but sometimes even that doesn’t help. Set a realistic timeframe for your goal and figure out what you’ll need to do each day in order to achieve it.
How to Get Started
Probably the biggest thing that stops people from starting on their goals is that they don’t know where to start. Goal planning is a skill just like any other and most of us aren’t good at it.
Start by clarifying what you want and then set a timeframe for when you want to achieve it. Next, break your big goal into small sub-goals and make a list for each of the actions you need to take to achieve them. Organize your goal setting but leave some room for flexibility too because things change along the way.
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