Kris Carr posted a great blog update Sorry. No. Thank You… this morning. She hit the nail on the head. Women can often be afraid of their power. Afraid of their unique identity and afraid of simply being themselves. So often we try to act smaller than who we are or what we feel. We do this by apologizing for pretty much everything. And every time we apologize we lose a little of our power. She summed it up by saying: When I get clear on the why’s behind my sorry’s, no’s and thank you’s, I get clear on who and what needs to be embraced or released. I make room for more living and less second-guessing, more truth and less explaining, more relief and less regret.
She had no idea how timely this article was.
It’s like Saturday’s fully moon was some sort of cosmic sisterhood when just before midnight we reached our hands together committing ourselves to our own brand of unique and our own form of power, tied together through sisterhood and the artistic wire wrappings of Beth Kaya Designs.
Do you need something a little less cryptic?
Saturday evening I hit the turnpike north and headed to Jersey City to meet up with a few less than 20 amazing women that traveled from all over the East Coast and New England. Simply to get together, to be in the presence of other women.
Women connect on different levels. I connect to these particular women, my Vibe Tribe Ladies, through our intense love of live music, festivals (Gathering of the Vibes, in particular), and the jam band scene. We’re from all over the US and often only catch up in person on lot or the dance floor (usually with a gaggle of other friends and our respective significant others). I am lucky to have shared some pretty great life experiences with these ladies.
When you find women you authentically connect with, surround yourself with their energy as often as possible! <~~ TWEET IT!
A few years ago, we decided to have a Gathering of the Vaginas. Ladies Only. No live music. No significant others. No distractions. Just Ladies, dinner and cocktails. A slumber party for 20-40 somethings. We have since turned it into a semi-annual event. I hosted one the first year I moved to Jersey. I will never forget the look on Stephen’s face when he walked in around 8pm to deliver another bottle of tequila. We had only been dating for a few months. I think one of my friends was actually wearing an Instead Soft Cup on her head. Needless to say, he dropped the tequila and ran.
Connecting the dots back to Kris Carr, on Saturday night. The living room was filled with laughter and oddly enough, echos of “I’m Sorry.” We laughed about it and the conversation evolved and we came to the same conclusion as Kris. We use the words “I’m Sorry” too often. As women, we need to let go of guilt or the need to be anything less than we actually are. Say I’m sorry when it is required, but stop apologizing for being who you are.
I am not sorry for my feelings.
I am not sorry for my thought process.
I am not sorry for the changes I make in my life.
I am not sorry for life evolving and for friendships shifting.
I am definitely NOT sorry for the the woman I have become.
And for that night, we made a decision. Anytime the words “I’m sorry” were uttered without true reason, you had to drink. You would be shocked to learn how many drinks were consumed.